If you always do…………

…………what you’ve always done, you always get what you’ve always got. Sounds obvious, but it’s amazing how many of us think that if we keep bashing away at something we’ll get results. Step back, try something different, maybe walk away for good. Tenacity is one thing, but never ending pointless persistence is, well, pointless.

Communication skills

Communication is perceived to be a two way street, but is often a battlefield. How often do you feel you are not being heard? Ever tried saying it louder and repeatedly, with no effect? It’s a bit like the stereotype of the English speaker talking to someone with no knowledge of the English language; “if I enunciate clearly and slowly, surely they will understand?”

Sometimes it’s because we hear what we want to hear, sometimes we just zone out and sometimes we haven’t got a clue what the other person is talking about.

There is a theory that the student doesn’t fail the course, it’s the teacher that fails. If someone doesn’t understand what you are hoping to impart, whose fault is it?

Time to be yourself

I heard a speaker last week talking about shining as the person that you are.   It made me wonder how many of us actually do that?    She also spoke about sharing your story, that others can learn from you.
It made me think of a Goethe quote that is probably my favourite.
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one’s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now”.
We all have a story and life experiences that are unique to us.   What have you learnt that is useful to others?     Probably more than you realise; time to flaunt it!
Deborah Burdett